Honesty and Age-Appropriate Communication
When discussing death with children, it's essential to be honest while using language appropriate for their age and development. Avoid euphemisms and provide clear explanations they can comprehend. Encourage them to express their feelings through drawing or journaling in a private space.
Creating a Safe Space for Expression
Establish a safe environment where children feel comfortable sharing their emotions about death. Encourage them to ask questions and express their thoughts openly. Let them know that all feelings—whether sadness, anger, or confusion—are normal and understandable.
Listening and Validating Feelings
Listen attentively to children as they share their thoughts about death and validate their emotions. Reassure them that it’s okay to feel sad or upset and avoid dismissing their feelings. Let them know their emotions are valid, and that you are there to support them.
Providing Reassurance and Support
Offer reassurance that they are loved, cared for, and not alone in their grief. Provide comfort and support and encourage them to seek help from trusted adults if needed. Let them know that grief is a process that takes time, and it’s okay to feel differently from day to day.
Using Books and Resources
Utilise age-appropriate books and resources to help children understand and cope with death. Reading together or watching videos can stimulate conversations and offer comfort during this difficult time. Exploring these resources together can help in understanding and expressing emotions.
Seeking Professional Support
If children struggle to cope with grief, or if discussing death with them is challenging, consider seeking support from a professional counsellor or therapist. Several UK-based organisations specialise in supporting families and children dealing with loss, offering counseling services and tailored support groups.
Child Bereavement UK
Offers counselling services, support groups, and resources for families and children coping with loss.
Winston’s Wish
Provides practical support and guidance to children, young people, and families facing bereavement.
Cruse Bereavement Support
Offers counseling and support groups for individuals who have experienced the loss of a loved one.
Samaritans
Provides emotional support through a confidential helpline available 24/7.